Author and campus minister Shelby Abbott reminds us that Scripture calls us to something greater and healthier in our relationships with the opposite sex. It calls us to love through self-sacrifice, communication, service, and patience. How does this apply in the dating phase? Shelby, now married, shares his own dating history and talks about how technology has changed the dating game.

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Being a Christian in the 21 st century is no mean feat. The modern era gave us hook-up apps, One Direction, and new hurdles in social trends. The desire to find a Zac Effron lookalike with the heart of Pope Francis has pushed us to either become so specific we lose sight of great people, or give up on commitment entirely, instead searching for the greater upgrade, disregarding the fact we are dealing with people—not a Mercedes-Benz.

Even if we do spot a dashing Christian, the person may or may not have been honest on his or her social media profile. A few years ago, an atheist friend of mine pointed at me with victorious venom when a documentary on Channel 4 indicated statistics that Christians lied more than Atheists on dating websites. I was hopeful because I believed in the paradox of God and the impossible. How do we conduct ourselves according to Christ-like behavior in a cyber forum often riddled with question marks on false identity?

Within my observations of both pastoring relationships and witnessing behaviors in my own dating life, here are a few tips that could get the love-ball rolling to a chirpier tune:. Sometimes we critique how the other person makes us feel instead of appreciating who that person is. The more authentic you are, the safer the other person will feel, and the less messy it will be later on.

Hold onto your identity, and your faith, always seeking to give, and creating a stable environment in the most vulnerable of relationship encounters. And whether or not a relationship occurs from meeting — exit well with communication, honesty and a pinch of diplomacy. Social media can create a pretend world of whom we would like to be rather than who we really are.

Ensure you discover chemistry outside of the 2D screen, checking you can interact face to face, in conversation, just like they did in the s.