While most people know that they don’t need to have everything in common with their partner, it’s still really tempting to fall for people who are similar to you. And while this isn’t the formula for love, when people stay together for a long time, it may be because there are certain ways they tend to mirror one another. What couples have in common when they’ve been together for a long time, though, may be a bit more surprising than you think.

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For example, when I met a man online who was in construction, I thought of all my badly needed home repairs. When I met someone who was a financial planner, I pondered my retirement planning. I accept this as human nature everyone, including non-dates, probably thinks of vaginas when they meet an ob-gyn and part of the gig.

Then there are the amateur gynecologists who inevitably want to discuss two things: female ejaculation and G spots. These amateur gynecologists gyno-splain to me that I am mistaken. That their personal mastery informs them that I must be wrong. My response is to tell them that statistically — especially with that attitude — they have likely induced more fake orgasms than real ones, so I am uninterested in their opinions. After ending a seven-year relationship last year, I began dating again.

There is, of course, sexting. Take this real-life exchange between me and a would-be suitor, whose name I have changed:. Hey Jen, this is Chad from .